One of our users questioned us, he wrote it; One of my co-worker invited me to his Halloween party. His last year Halloween Party was a really kinky party and I would be happy to go this year too. I have a lady friend and I really want to develop more than friendship with her but I scare if I make my move, I will lose her for good.
So my question is: What happens when you want to ask a friend out for a date, or in my case that date will be a kinky Halloween party, but you’re scared you’ll hear, “No, thanks”? What can you do when potential lady mate think of you less like a lover and more like a brother?
The question is good, because there is a fine line between friendship and romantic relationship, but only if she is your long time friend. Built – develop romance with a woman, who seem to think of you as nothing more than a friend is not easy. I mean, being friends is good, but if you would like to get into a relationship at some point than you have to make your move…
First of all, don’t be to hard on yourself. Being just friends is an all too common problem these days when, more than ever, fewer people actually go out on dates, opting instead simply to search the internet for casual relationship. They find someone to hang out, have a drink or two and sooner or later, after 2 – 3 dates, they might end up in a hotel room, while acting as if there’s no date happening.
The line between casual dating – relationship and or friendship, between men and women isn’t blurry, and that’s where many men’s problem starts.
Have you ever noticed that friends often don’t arouse strong romantic feelings in some of us? They may seem perfect in all sorts of ways: funny, great to be around, smart, trustworthy, similar, and familiar. But no matter how hard we try, they just don’t arouse strong romantic feeling in us?
She might say; “Oh. I could never go out with you, you’re like a brother to me.” And no one go to romantic date whit her own brother. That is taboo at this part of the world.
I think this happens, because men hesitate too long, to figure out whether their time together are real dates or just hanging out. Haven’t you ever felt the initial rush of interest for a new friend, but then suppressed those feelings because you thought that she didn’t act interested?
But it could be that she felt passion for you, way back when you first started hanging out. You just couldn’t see it. Time passed, and now you’re like a brother to her. She’s known you so long, and when the time was right you did not make your move, therefore you do not make her romantically exciting anymore.
It this happens in your case, your best option is run, and run fast. You will save a lot of time for yourself.
So what can you do to stop becoming a brother and start being a lover? Don’t hesitate too long at the friendship stage. If your friend has any romantic feelings for you at all, you’ll have to take advantage of the window of opportunity. Ask early, or be prepared to miss the chance.
Picking the right time is essential: somewhere after the “getting to know you” stage but before she starts telling you about all the men she’s really interested in. When she starts talk about her last night date, well that is the sign you missed your opportunity, because from that point she does not consider you as a dating partner.
Making the switch from friends to lovers isn’t easy. You might not be up to the challenge since it is risky. What if you lose the relationship entirely? That might happen. Many people say if yours is a good friendship, it will survive, however I do not think so. I believe between men and women friendship I mean real deep friendship could not exist for long time. Sooner or later one of them, and usually the men, want to get into her underwear and that is not friendship anymore.
The best casual sex relationship develops between friends. Fiends know each other, they know what they like what they don’t, and very often they can serve each other erotic needs. Also it is fact a lot of casual sex partner turns their casual relationship into romantic relationship, but now we can get into the beginning, which was; How can you do it?
There is no correct answer for your question. But if I were you, I would take her to that Halloween party, hopefully that party would be a “kinky” Halloween party and I would try to get intimate with her. What can happen? Get rejected or succeed… You never know if you not try.