I found this website by accident… More is merrier, is it true? I guess who ever is looking for, will find something. Let me explain, what got me here. I am a 35 year old married woman, married since 22.
In the first few years sex was good and that make life beautiful, however sex life has become stale. We get so bored with routine sex. We’ve tried toys, new positions, you name it, we’ve done it.
We’ve tried to be creative by trying to have sex at different places, but nothing seems to work! Sex isn’t fun anymore, and both of us know this. I want to have fun, I simply want to find someone else… but I love him and he loves me… but I am frustrated and shy as I am I feel that day to cheat is very close.
Ultimately I do not wish to be a cheater, I want to bring the spark back into our bedroom so I thought, I should ask here. What should we do? Any tips would be much appreciated.
I am sure you are not alone with your problem. Once the honeymoon’s over and you settle into the everyday life, it’s easy to get bored. A lot of people burdened by the demands of career, family, mortgage, sex is the last thing on their what to do list. However along with food and shelter, we need sex. Some of us need more some others less, in recipes ranging from simple to spicy.
As you wrote it creativity is very important. Creativity isn’t just for artists. We all have a creative side to us; creativity is the key to great sex.
You need to keep it flowing so no one never knows what to expect. Sometimes in life not knowing what is going to happen is great.
Variety is the spice of life. Without it, our lives really get old fast.
I mean, you have to have some changes in life to keep you on your toes. I have known people who do the same exact job their entire lives, but I can’t see how they do it. I mean, years after years do the same thing, I would get sick of it.
The same is true in bed. If you always go through the same motions, you won’t keep your partner interested. If the routine is, kissing him, he is going down on you and penetration, you are in a rut. He might like this, but some variety will wake him up too.
Not everything in life needs to be cut and dry. This is true in the bedroom. If you guys don’t spend time thinking harder of new ways to make love, sex will get to be too much of a routine activity. Every older couple knows what happens then. Either you think I can’t turn him on anymore, or you’ll think about cheat on him. My partner say, work hard and play harder, and this works for us…
Do I miss something here? She asked tips or advice what should they do to make their sex life fulfilling again, and everyone talk about their own sex life.
What kind of advice is; “Work hard play harder”? What work have to do with sex?
Anyways, there are many things that anyone can try, or try some that they think, you think you will enjoy both. For example:
Food in bed. Remember as a kid you were told not to eat in bed? Now that you are an adult, you can without the guilt. Use foods that are sweet and that you can smear on each other. Stay way from spicy or salty food. You don’t want to get that stuff around your privates, but whipped cream or foam, honey, peanut butter. It can be fun.
Change your love making positions. This is an easy way to spice up your sex life. If you normally do it one way, switch to another way. Switch roles, you go on top of him. This will also give both of you a chance to explore what feels good for each of you.
Talk dirty. Pretend that both of you are enjoying phone sex with each other. Tell each other what you would do to each other while you masturbate. Not only this is a big turn on, but he can watch you while you bring yourself to orgasm. What is more fun than that?
Sex toys. There are more toys than vibrators… Try them, figure out how to use them, that can be a lot of fun. Be a kid again. Get some toys that both of you can use on each other. Explore, and enjoy each others new found sensual areas.
Porn. Oh yeah, every healthy man loves porn. Some women too, like myself… 🙂 This can add some spice into your sex life. Don’t do it too much, he might think you are looking for a porn star like man. I would suggest that you get a movie with a plot. Or get one of those android box, unlimited porn there. You will enjoy the sex, he will enjoy the movie.
How open minded are you, and how open minded is he? You said you are thinking about cheat on him. Don’t cheat, instead ask him to set up a mfm Threesome for you. There are a lot o homework to do, before you get into this, but if you make it happen you might like it…
Three is company. You can start with a couple… Why not have a three way? Do you have a buddy that would like to do you? His lady with your hubby in the same room? Is he curious about having sex with another woman? Actually you don’t have to do each other, you can watch each other. It can be a great turn on and a great amount of fun. Why not see where it goes?
You tried threesome and its not enough. Well, you can take your sex life to the next level, which is Swinging. If your marriage and love strong enough let’s get kinky. Hey, why not try it? You can go to a swingers club and observe… If you don’t like what you see, you can walk out… or stay and walk on the wild side…
I am sure there will be couples like you there. You can just have sex with your own man, while an other couple is in the same room. A couple who you like. If you are feeling on the edge, you can play erotic games together with them. If two couples start to play erotic games it’s usually ends up in great sex.
Role plays and Costumes. It can be a great way to add something different into your sex play. You can role play in an old Halloween costume. He can be super man while you are little red riding hood. Or teacher – student, photo model, porn star, prostitute, etc. Some of this role play scenario does not even need costume.
Sex doesn’t have to be boring. I know, if you have sex with the same person for years, it will get boring. It will get more boring if you allow it to, but there is always a way to spice it up. The question is: How far would you go?
Happy banging. I hope it helped a little.